Keeping the romance alive in your marriage is not hard to do, it just takes effort. Is your marriage worth it? I hope you believe so! Maybe you don’t feel like it is because you & your spouse have stopped pursuing each other. The honeymoon doesn’t have to be for just one night, it can last your whole lifetime.
Insanity is described as doing the same things and expecting different results. Are you never-changing, always doing the same things but still expecting change? If so, I encourage you to step out of the box and try something new. You won’t regret it!
I am not a promoter of sleeping with anyone before you are married, so these resources I’m listing are strictly for married couples. I will post some future blogs specifically for singles with advice and tools on how to enjoy being single, and also how to find that right one.
This site sells lingerie, bath and body stuff; books and a lot of other cool things to spice up your marriage.
*I LOVE that this site uses only mannequins to display the lingerie-I do not agree with the pornography industry, it destroys marriages. So why not invest our money in a better cause?!?! *
Another awesome site just like the previous one with the same values.
Normally fires are something we try to avoid at all costs! In regards to your marriage I encourage you to keep the fire burning hot!
Here are some tips:
1. Continue to do what you were doing when you were courting a.k.a. dating!
If you were opening doors, continue to do that. If you were buying little gifts just to say I love you, don’t stop! Ladies if you were making your man wonderful meals on a regular basis continue.
I find a lot of times after people get married they figured they have won and “snagged” their spouse so what is the purpose in doing all these things. Well you have to remember what attracted you to your spouse in the first place and them to you. Romance and true intimacy beyond the physical aspect is not something that just happens, you have to work at it and work on keeping it alive!
2. Don’t stop having fun!
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life but life should be enjoyed and so should your spouse. Do you enjoy your spouse? If not, let’s go back to the basics. Are you having fun with them? If not, why? Are you too busy or are they? Make time for them and seek out things you enjoy together. My husband and I both enjoy a good laugh so we play games together and we crack a lot of jokes. We enjoy each other because we make time for each other and we actively pursue each other.
Here are a couple of resources that I have personally used to enhance communication, romance & intimacy in my marriage. Enjoy!
1. “The 5 Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman
This is a wonderful book that my hubby & I both enjoyed! He also has some free assessments on his website that are informative & fun. http://www.5lovelanguages.com
2. “The Love Dare” by Alex & Stephen Kendrick
Another wonderful book that takes you on a 40 day journey and challenge. You can get the book for under $9 on their website http://www.thelovedarebook.com *from the hit movie “Fireproof”
Weird title right? I’ve decided to title it this way because I believe in order to fully understand romance and how to achieve it we have to know what it is first.
ROMANCE-1. The state of being in love 2. A story about love between people. 3. To court romantically. (To court means to date)
Next I think we should examine why we are pursuing romance? (If that is in fact what you are doing in your current relationship)
Why we are in pursuit of it are personal questions you should be asking yourself. If you find that your main focus or motives are more self-serving than anything you might want to hold off on pursuing romance. You wouldn’t want to start this thing off on a bad foot. With that being said in my next post I’m going to include some resources that I believe aid in the area of romance and intimacy with your spouse and God. (Yes, you can be intimate with God)
Having and maintaining relationships with anyone takes work, time and dedication. You get whatever you invest into something, if you don’t invest in your marriage you won’t get anything out of it.
Start off small and then build on that, if you never ask your spouse “How was work? ” why don’t you try that today. Communication is key but someone has to initiate it.